Romance Mistakes
Being romantic
is wonderful, fun and especially rewarding but unfortunately, many people make
mistakes we all make in relationships that can simply undo all of the good that
has been done by romantic efforts. For
instance, every couple has disagreements and upon occasion the argument has a
definitive outcome. The spouse that was
right during the argument has two choices when ‘winning’- he or she can not see
it as winning and simply move on or express understanding as to why there may
have been some confusion. Or, he or she
can gloat and make their spouse feel inferior and possibly humiliated. One works (the moving on one...) and one
doesn’t (the gloating one).
Conflict is often
unavoidable when two people from two different backgrounds with different
beliefs are brought together. If you
happen to be the one in a disagreement who doesn’t come out as the ‘right’ one
or you don’t get your way, the worst thing you can do is to pout. It’s simply childish, not sexy at all and
your partner will most likely have a difficult time finding respect for you as
a result.
While worry is a
natural part of life, try not to let it overwhelm your relationship. Wouldn’t your rather focus on much more
positive things like romance? If you
find that you and your spouse schedule a lot during the week, sit down and try
to eliminate some commitments. Don’t
over-schedule any time that you don’t have to, including vacations and
weekends.
Make choices that
benefit both you and your spouse.
Instead of turning on the television, ask your wife or husband if they
would like to play a board game or go for a walk. If you decide to watch television together,
never guess at the plot or give away the ending of a movie! Try to support your spouse’s authority in
front of the children. If you disagree
about what was done, wait until you can talk quietly with your spouse and
discuss why and how things may have been done differently. He or she can always go back and change their
mind or you may eventually come to support his or her decisions.
Make as much as
possible in your relationship about ‘us’ instead of about ‘you’. This doesn’t mean that you or your spouse has
to sacrifice his or her individuality, it simply means that all decisions and
thoughts about the relationship should be about both needs instead of your own
individual needs. For instance, if you
happen to be or sleep with someone who ‘hogs’ the bed covers go out and find an
extra, extra large blanket so that there’s plenty for both to share. Don’t make an issue out of it- make a joke
and provide a solution.
Show your spouse
that you are a loving and mature individual by doing mature and loving things
like never holding grudges or continuously bringing up errors from the
past. You can also be a good listener,
never interrupt and wait your turn. And
most importantly, don’t allow a day to pass by without telling your spouse that
you love them.
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