Opposites Attract
We’ve all heard
the expression that ‘opposites attract’.
Heck, even Paula Abdul made a song dedicated to such a phenomenon. While opposites can seem to have the biggest
challenges ahead of them when they get married, they also have to most
opportunities for love and romance.
People who embrace romance and actually admit that they enjoy romance
are more likely to be successfully married to their opposite. It just goes to show you how powerful romance
can be in any marriage!
Every marriage
experiences problems and even misunderstandings from small tiffs to shouting
matches and the reason for this is often because both spouses are not able to
acknowledge, recognize and appreciate their differences or the principle of
balancing opposites. Everything is
intended to be able to work with and often balance its opposite. Life is full of opposites that complement
each other like man and woman, happy and sad, funny and serious, give and take
as well as life and death.
Opposites offer
insight into the magic of how life is balanced.
If you begin to see your spouse as your equivalent on the opposite side
of the scale of life, you should find that you have a new appreciation for his
or her individuality.
Try seeing
everything you experience in your marriage at complementary experiences or
behaviours. For instance, instead of
using your differences with your spouse as a reason for conflict, try
considering them as an important part of the person you love and celebrate
them. While the opposite traits may seem
to stand out, you undoubtedly have some common traits you share with your
spouse. Find strength with your spouse
because of your similarities.
Take each day with
your spouse and live it to the fullest.
At the same time, it is a wonderful idea to make your memories a part of
what makes your romance special. If you
love reading books, buy some more but make them about something that your
spouse is interested in. He or she may
never read the book, but you will have and you can share all kinds of thoughts
and ideas that you may not have been able to before. At the same time, stop relying on books that
tell you how to improve your marriage.
You already have all that you need without them. You and your spouse are already there!
Make sure you
aren’t holding anything back in your relationship. Each partnership tends to have an individual
who would rather bury their feelings than express them and possibly cause
conflict or wounded feelings. It is
absolutely all right to express how you feel as long as your words are chosen
carefully. Never take on an accusative
tone and always make sure you emphasize what you are saying is how you feel.
You are married to
your best friend. If you don’t treat him
or her like they are your best friend already, it’s time to start right
now. On the other hand, sometimes it
might be fun to act like he or she is a stranger to spice things up. Imagine a chance to get to know one another all
over again!
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